This contribution has been sent by one who was herself, and to her regret, involved (and sadly, she was one of many) with the author Jim Perrin, The Guardian Country Diary writer and former climber. We have described elsewhere on our site the many dishonest inconstancies and flagrant deceptions of which Jim Perrin, as a husband, partner and, not least, father, has habitually been guilty for the last two decades and as we have rightly said in a previous post: ‘he leaves a trail of emotional devastation…’
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“We who have suffered physically, psychologically, emotionally and financially from our relationships with this man can now feel a sense of community and hopefully some strength.
As these abuses are revealed in several areas of life, anyone who has suffered at the hands of Jim Perrin should feel more confident to speak out and know we are not alone.
And certainly not in his case as this very helpful website has vividly illustrated.”
[From a well-wisher.] (Name and address supplied — as they say…)
A ground-breaking documentary on BBC 1 (‘Behind Closed Doors’, 14/03/2016) examines domestic abuse towards women and features three victims who have spoken out. The sad truth is that still, in the majority of such cases, the person attacked feels it impossible — and for many complex reasons — to challenge their abuser or ‘to go public’ with their experiences; thus they are unable to access the professional help which is available, and which could be a life-saver to them (both figuratively and actually). Much more publicity should be given to this under-the-radar outrage and any action which contributes to the help and support of those subjected to it is to be welcomed.
One invaluable step forward is the recent introduction of a law concerning emotional and psychological manifestations of abuse — until now very difficult to quantify — sometimes, but not always, a precursor to physical violence although perhaps more subtle as there are no physical bruises. Continue reading →
Considering all we have discovered about Jim Perrin’s past relationships, it is interesting to note, after our sister died of cancer within nine months of her diagnosis, how quickly he was able to gain the support and loving sympathy of at least six other partners — up to the present — two within the year of Jac’s death. He claimed that he was himself now dying of the disease: they could hardly have missed this tragic coincidence… His account of the illness, ref. Jim Perrin diagnosed with Terminal Lung Cancer? and his patient suffering and acceptance as he dealt so bravely with his failing health! — together with his ‘history’ of past distress, the ‘lack of any real love or understanding’ — was to make him the irresistible subject for the ministrations of the sensitive women he seems opportunistically to have targeted (they were never without property and/or means) and with whom, in succession, he began A New Life. Continue reading →