Between August 1998 and October 2002 Jim Perrin had, as nearly as we can work it out, at least nine addresses and he wrote in ‘West:’ of the period before that, whilst his first son lived with him:
‘We moved house on average once a year until he was ten years old’ – ‘when, he says, ‘I bought [?] a house in Dinorwig.’
Certainly he has ’moved’ around a great deal. Except: again there is the convenient ‘air-brushing’: actually he did not, as he implies throughout this book, single-handedly raise his son, Will, but instead remarried – his third wife – whilst his son, Will, was still very small – a toddler, barely three years old.
This young woman, who already had two children of her own and with whom he had a further child, was a very loving step-mother to Will and was mostly responsible for his upbringing in those early years. Continue reading
In the next section of Jim Perrin’s letter he told Jac of his intention to accept an offer for his house: there was considerable ‘psychology’ concerning their relationship, and many more ‘positive’ thoughts. He then wrote this paragraph:
‘Given that I had absolutely nothing and now have a house full of belongings and considerable equity why should I feel insecure anyway? Particularly since work-wise things are going very well for me, the critical reception for what I do is higher than ever, my craft is coming to fruition- – -‘
Again he wrote of ‘fixing up a good working environment for [her]’. (The ‘environment’ in which for nearly sixteen years she had created such lovely stained-glass!).Her studio was known in the family as ‘the cold room’ – it still is to this day – and Jim Perrin, in the time he lived there, did nothing at all to ‘fix it up’. They were , merely, more of his tempting words; not that Jac minded, it was her very personal space – one in which she felt content and secure. Continue reading
In another letter to our sister, Jim Perrin – ruthlessly and without any shame – applied the greatest pressure in order to persuade her that she should ‘get rid’ of her current partner: he was still living in their home and funding the household, still sharing their bedroom, and had his long-established business and workshop in one of their barns. Ref: our blog ‘Jac’s Last Long Relationship’.
In her own way, which was never confrontational, and in her own time, not wishing to cause her partner greater hurt, by now she felt she wished for a separation – albeit certainly having second thoughts – but he had his life there too, and his work-base and she hated to cause him unnecessary extra pain; there would be of course the enormous upheaval of moving his established work-shop and machinery. So, as we said, in her own time and in her own way she was trying to find a civilized solution. Continue reading