A ground-breaking documentary on BBC 1 (‘Behind Closed Doors’, 14/03/2016.) examines domestic abuse towards women and features three victims who have spoken out. The sad truth is that still, in the majority of such cases, the person attacked feels it impossible—and for many complex reasons—to challenge their abuser or ‘to go public’ with their experiences; thus they are unable to access the professional help which is available, and which could be a life-saver to them (both figuratively and actual). Much more publicity should be given to this under-the-radar outrage and any action which contributes to the help and support of those subjected to it is to be welcomed.
One invaluable step forward is the introduction of a law concerning emotional and psychological manifestations of abuse—until now very difficult to quantify—sometimes, but not always, a precursor to physical violence although perhaps more subtle as there are no physical bruises. Continue reading →
Considering all we have discovered about Jim Perrin’s past relationships, it is interesting to note that after our sister died of her cancer he managed to gain the support and loving sympathy of at least six other partners—up to the present—(two within the year of Jac’s death) with the claim that he was himself now dying of the disease: they could hardly have missed this tragic coincidence…
His account of the illness, see: ‘Jim Perrin diagnosed with Terminal Lung Cancer?‘, and his patient suffering and acceptance as he dealt so bravely with his failing health; together with his ‘history’ of past distress—the ‘lack of any real love or understanding’—was to make him the irresistible subject for the ministrations of the sensitive women he seems to have targeted (they were never without property or means) and with whom, successively, he began A New Life. Continue reading →
We have written of our sister’s meeting with Jim Perrin in late 2002 and of how he went to live with her—’a safe house’—in 2003. She had no idea of his pressing necessity to leave Llanrhaeadr ym Mochnant or that his intention was to outmanoeuvre the Child Support Agency. Jac was unaware of that aspect of his life, he made sure that it was so, and it would be many months before she learned the truth; even then, only partially.
In several posts we have mentioned Jim Perrin’s slippery evasion of this agency and we fear that inadvertently the impression might have been given that our sister was party to his actions. Knowing that he had a small baby, why did she appear so accepting of his parental neglect? Why had she involved herself with one apparently so heartless, and disrespectful of another woman—the mother of that child? The answer is that Jac had not been told and she did not know. Continue reading →